I have a lot of information to share ranging from my trip to some more history of Romania (I hope there are some people enjoying the history) to future plans while I am here to a little literary analysis.
First of all, the trip: Romania is about the size of Iowa but there is virtually no highway system and the roads wind through mountain ranges and pass through cities. I believe we covered a distance that would be equivalent to travel to Des Monies if you would a straight shot on a highway; but instead of an hour and a half car ride it was about five hours. On the way to Sighetu, we stopped at a potter’s house a little outside of Baia Mare, Romania. We had a nice cup of coffee in his gorgeous backyard and got a tour of his workshop. Below are some pictures. I of course also got some pottery to bring home, just have to figure out how to pack it.
In Sighetu, we stayed in a traditional Romanian hotel with a restaurant that served traditional food with waiters and waitresses in traditional dress. So now I have had “traditional Romanian food” and let me tell you, I’m in love. Listen to this dinner:
First, an appetizer of baked eggplant and onion on bread with tomatoes; then an entrée of mushroom paprika stew with polenta and fresh tomato salad; followed by a dessert of chocolate and sweet cheese crêpes all washed down with plenty of wine, espresso, and mineral water.
The next morning was our trip to the orphanage. I wish 20/20 would go back now and do a story on what hard work and dedication can do in twenty years. Though there are still orphanages open that just work to meet basic human needs, the system we were shown goes far beyond. The woman in charge traveled to the UK and studied their foster care system. She described to us that before she went to the UK she couldn't understand or think of a way, with the volume of children institutionalized, to expand beyond basic needs. She knew they were doing a disservice to the children, but the magnitude of the problem was too great to tackle. After studying in the UK she came back with a plan; however, when talking with others in her position in different regions she found the same ideas implanted that she previously had. In Sighetu now, there are three different programs. First, there are maternal nurses. This is like foster care in the US. Women can take a 60 hour course and become a maternal nurse. They are then matched to one or two children that will live in their homes as part of their family. Second, there are maternal homes. This program is targeted at mothers who are at a high risk of abandoning their child. They stay in this complex, for up to a year, and have support to help them transition to being mothers, find productive jobs, and reconnect with the child’s father. It seems like a domestic violence shelter mixed with the Ronald McDonald house in the US. The mothers are expected to do cooking and a set amount of cleaning and in return are provided with a safe and nurturing environment to learn their new role. The third is family homes, which parallel group homes in the US, where twelve children between the ages of 4 and 18 live in a home with staff. We toured both a family home and the maternal house and the walls were bright and covered in hand painted Disney characters and art projects and there was plenty of room for playing. I was truly taken aback by how much the system had advanced. The system here in Sighetu is definitely on the leading edge of the change in Romania and they couldn’t have accomplished all they have without the Italian NGO that supports them (I will post the name after I confirm it). For the holiday this summer the NGO is also paying for the kids to go to Italy. Truly FTK!!!
I wanted to add a few supplements to my last blog post. In addition to everything I listed that led to high birth rates, abortions were also illegal. Of course this triggered numerous illegal abortions in hazardous settings to be performed. The film 4 months, 3 weeks, and 2 days is a story of a young woman in the 1980s in Romania struggling with the decision of if she should get an abortion and how to go about it. If you are interested in getting a glimpse of what life was like for young woman during this time I would recommend this movie. Also as I mentioned in my previous post when 20/20 aired the story of the state of orphanages in Romania many Americans were moved to help. The “help” many Americans thought they were bringing to Romania was not necessarily so. Americans flooded into Romania with the intention of adopting a baby. Many people went through the process as they should, spending time with the child and making sure there was positive relationship, getting critical medical information, etc. Others however came got a baby and left, showing little interest in taking time to make sure the adoption was positive for all involved. This flood of people and the lack of an efficient system to facilitate the international adoptions caused the government to make international adoptions illegal. This is still the case today unless the foreigner is a family member of the child. Adoption is not used much within the country either. The woman running the institutions in Sighetu said she has never had someone come forward wanting to adopt. Since Romania’s induction into the EU in 2007 there has been pressure to reopen international adoptions, to fit better with the EU’s policy on abandoned children; however large amounts of legislation have to be developed to make sure the system will be effective.
After visiting the orphanage on Wednesday morning we did some sight-seeing around Sighetu. First we went to an open air museum of houses from different times in Romania set up in the Carpathian Mountains. Then we went to an Orthodox monastery that had one of the best gardens I have ever seen. Grandma Barbara would definitely approve and no doubt steal some of the flowers to plant when she got back home.
Finally, we went to a prison memorial, but I am going to saving this for a separate post (as well as my future plans and the literary analysis) because there is a lot of history to provide and this blog post has already become lengthy. Sorry for the long gap since the last post. This morning, I have set up camp in a coffee shop so there will be several in the next few days.
J Kait